There are ways to get me to stop talking

I am a talker. I love to converse, especially about topics I’m interested in (travel or music for starters). To me, words are a tool. I use them to argue, to make people laugh, to get people to agree with me, to get people pumped up, to cheer people up, to help work through issues (work, relationships, whatever).

But I also have a nervous habit where I just keep talking and in romantic situations, this is not a good thing. But if I am really attracted to someone-instead of making a move I usually just keep talking. Over the years, I have realized that I just need to stop talking. Especially in those moments (like when you’re sitting on a couch next to someone and the moment is as perfect as it’s gonna get). But sometimes I still do it. It’s like I don’t even know that I’m doing it really. Like I said it’s a habit-almost an unconscious one like people who bite their nails or bite their lip when they’re nervous, or fiddle with something in their hands, etc.

I have also found a remedy to this. I dated a guy several years ago who could sense when there was mounting romantic tension and in order to get me to stop talking (because that’s what I do)-he would just lean over and kiss me. And not just any kiss, I mean the kind of kiss where 5 seconds in you have no idea where you are and you really don’t care because all you can focus on is heat & friction & lips & tongues. Yeah, you know what I’m talking about. Interestingly enough, a lot of the guys I’ve dated after this guy aren’t as good at it as him (not the kissing part) but I mean the reading me and knowing exactly when to do it.

Now you could be asking yourself why don’t I just kiss them. Of course I do make the first move sometimes (although usually not with someone new) but definitely after we are more comfortable around each other. BUT it’s never the same as when I am completely caught up in a thought and then I’m taken by surprise at amazing lips connecting with mine. That has to be one of the best feelings in the world.